Andrew Thorn - The Authentic Me

Moving Day!

Today, I celebrate my 251st post with a move to WordPress. I am still figuring out all of the formating, but my post of the day is online at The Authentic Me.

I hope you will visit me there. You can now subscribe and receive my current post via email or rss feed.

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Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548

21 Years of Loving Together

21 years ago today, I married my sweetheart, Stacy Van Liew. She is the love of my life and I would do anything for her. Though I have always said that, I haven't always lived up to it. Sometimes, I just did what I thought she needed, only to discover that I was giving her what I wanted and not what she wanted. It is funny how love works. If we really want to love those that matter most to us, then we better find out what they want and need. If we give them only what we want them to have or what we are willing to give, then our relationships, will suffer the consequences.

I am so thankful for Stacy. She always supports me and my crazy ideas. I love it when I make a suggestion and she runs with it. It could be the craziest thing and off she goes chasing the dream with me. Let me illustrate: One summer I took my sons to Oregon. My mother was with us and we visited a hill top ranch that was once owned by my great grandfather. I loved being on that hill. It was quiet and peaceful. The ranch is in a very remote part of Oregon. Nothing is around it. I came away from that experience with a desire to buy the ranch. When I called Stacy, I was excited about my visit. I told her that I wanted to buy the property. She said, that would be neat. We talked about a few other things and then hung up. When I called back later in the day, I asked her what she was doing. She said she was drawing a lodge. I said, "what for", and she said, "how will we invite people to our ranch if we don't have a place for them to visit." I dreamed a dream and immediately she was dreaming it with me. It doesn't get any better than that. 

Living Love!

I love Stacy and she loves me. It doesn't seem like we have been married that long, yet I can't remember ever living without her by my side. We enjoy a successful marriage. Our life together has not always been easy, but we have faced every challenge together. I sometimes feel sorry for her because she picked me. I am sure there has been at least one time (hey, nobody is perfect) when she wondered why, but that never stopped her from loving and supporting me. 

Our marriage is successful because it is alive. It continues to grow and be defined. We don't let the mistakes of our past haunt us. We forgive each other when we hurt each other and we move on. The bitter and the sweet go together. We entered it with an eternal covenant and a promise to each other that divorce would never be an option. 

I am glad we had that discussion from the very beginning. I see too many couples getting married with the thought in their mind that if it doesn't work they will just get a divorce and start over somewhere else. When I married Stacy, she gave herself to me and I gave myself to her. From day one, we held everything common among us. It makes us happy to share everything we have together. 

We are not the same people that we were when we married each other. Both of us continue to grow, but we are growing together. The years we have spent through the good and the not so good moments have forged a trust that could not be created any other way. I am thankful to know that she is faithful to me and that I am her one and only. I am thankful that I can say that she is my one and only and that I am faithful to her. There is so much value in fidelity. I can not understand why our society tries so hard to sell us the idea that we need to give in to our most basic urges and desires. There is no happiness down that path. True happiness comes from being true and faithful to each other. Any other way leads to a cruel cul-de-sac of pain.

Making It Real!

I will not pretend for a moment that it is easy to maintain this type of relationship. It takes a lot of work. Any pause of focus will only lead to a deterioration of the relationship. Any relationship, just like our bodies, needs exercise to stay fit. What are you doing to keep the passion and trust alive in your relationship? What are you doing to make it grow? Are you listening so that you can discover what your spouse needs from you? or Are you just giving what you think s/he needs? 

I want you to give me an anniversary gift today. I want you to really listen to your spouse or somebody you care about deeply. Pay attention. I am sure they are going to express a wish or a desire that you can fulfill. I am sure that normally you are too tired or too busy to hear it. I know this because I often do the same thing. Today I want you to hear and grant that wish. You can do it. It doesn't matter if it is a big thing or a small thing, just do it. Because this will probably be seen as abnormal behavior, you may not get the response you hope for. That doesn't matter. I don't want you to do it for you, I want you to do it for the person you love. Just give without any expectation. That is the beauty of a pure gift - when we give it, we do not expect anything in return. Will you do it? I hope you will and that you will write or call me to tell me how it went. 

Live Today! Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548

Be Happy Now!

The first understandable word our daughter Rekehah (4) uttered was "happy". We thought it was so cool when she would walk around the house and say, "happy" - "happy" - "happy". We never grew tired of hearing it. Of course we are not sure if she knew what she was saying, but we did, and that made it a very charming time for us.

She still will say it if we ask her too, and I think she has figured out that we really like it when she does. It is not uncommon for her to come up to me when I am in the middle of something and say, "happy".

Where Does Your Happiness Come From?

Many of us are faced with an unusual amount of challenges these days. Things seem to be getting a little better, but it is definitely not like it was a couple of years ago. I don't know if it ever will be, and that may not be a bad thing. Do these challenges prevent you from being happy? 

If you are like most, you are probably spending less and doing your best to get out of debt. Very few of us are buying like we once did. To some, this reduction in disposable income feels limiting. They want to afford the freedom to spend that they once enjoyed but now find themselves unable to do so. Does happiness come from spending money and buying things? 

How do you define happiness? What does it mean to you to be happy? What is its source? There are many that are searching for it right now. If you are one of them, do you know what you are looking for?

Happiness is not a one size fits all emotion. In other words, the things that create happiness in my life, may seem boring or trite to you. The quickest way to discover unhappiness is to pursue what makes some one else happy. 

If I want to be happy, I must know what I like. How can we hunt for something if we do not know what we are looking for? We can't, it is just not possible.

What Makes You Feel Happy?

Do you know what does it for you? Most of us spend way too much time doing the dumb things we gotta do each day just to survive. I know that is important, but we must also spend some time doing the things that make us happy.

Take a moment today to define what it is for you. A great exercise is to write down all of the things that you do that make you happy. After you finish your list, ask yourself this sobering question: "How am I spending my time?" If too much of your time is spent on other things, then Dr. Thorn says it is time to make an adjustment. Please don't wait for someday, "be happy now!"

Live Today! Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548

A Boy Named Sue

Have you ever heard the song by Johnny Cash called "A Boy Named Sue"?

The other day, I was playing pool with my kids, and this song came on. It tells the story of a kid who spent his entire life hating his father because he named him Sue. We learn that Sue is always getting into fights because of his name and how he was always ashamed of his name.

Eventually Sue goes searching to find the "dirty mangy dog" that gave him such a terrible name so that he can kill him. Finally, he finds his father in a bar and they have a fight. Sue is surprised by how tough his dad is, but he eventually gets the upper hand. When he does, he pulls out his gun and aims it at his father. 

His dad then tells him that he has a right to kill him and that he wouldn't blame if he did, but before he dies, he wants to tell him why he named him Sue. Then he says that he knew he wouldn't be there to protect him when he was growing up so he gave him that name because he knew it would cause him to either "get tough or die". 

When Sue hears this, he got all choked up and develops a "different point of view." He sees why his dad gave him the name and even feels a little thankful for it. It was this last line that got me thinking about things.

Tough Love

A lot of the time that I spend interacting with my children is focused on correcting them. I understand that this is important. I am responsible for their well being. It is my responsibility to teach them what they need to know so that they can be successful in the world. If I don't stop the bad habits, then I will fail as a father. Even worse than that, they will have a more difficult time in the world.

Tough love is a critical and important part of parenting, but we must be careful to make sure that it does not become the only tool we use when raising our children. 

As a father of seven children, I have learned that children need a positive home environment to really thrive. Without it, they cannot respond positively to the correction they receive. If everything is negative, then they learn to be defensive when they receive the correction they need and it does them no good. 

Sue's name was a burden for him. He was never free from it. Even after he saw his daddy in a different light, he knew that he would never name his own son Sue. Even though the name taught him to be tough, it hindered him in other areas of his life. 

This Works At Work Too

Some of you that are reading this employ the same strategy with those who work for you. It is easy to believe that the primary purpose of our job as a leader is to be correcting those who are constantly are making mistakes. I have known some clients who even purposely make life difficult for their direct reports because they want them to grow and learn. 

The truth is that parenting, leading and managing are all done best from a nurturing perspective. It is difficult for many of us to get in touch with our nurturing side. We think that if we do, our kids, or our employees will see us as too soft and then they won't respect us. If that happens, then we know they won't do what we want and need them to do.

This intuition though is wrong. If we want to get the most out of people then we must treat them like they are already at or beyond the level to which we expect them to rise. 

My dad made a lot of mistakes during his short life, but he nurtured me and raised me up. He always treated me like I was the president of some organization. I knew that he thought I was worthy of that treatment. I knew that he thought I could go far in life. I did not doubt his belief in me, even when he was forced to move into a correcting role. I am grateful that he saw in me so much more than I saw in myself. Eventually, because of his promptings, I was able to see what he saw. It became my reality because he inspired me to reach for it.

Kindness Begins With Me

Look around today at those you serve. What can you say to them that will give you a credit balance in their emotional bank accounts? How can you build them up? How can you treat them the way they want to be treated? What can you give them that will help them to be their very best?

If you really want to become a better parent at home, and/or a better leader at work, then you must ask yourself these types of question. It is not about what they can do for you, rather it is about what you can do for them. How can you help them to become their best? That is what parenting and leadership is all about. Go ahead - make their day!

Live Today! Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548

Working Together

The other night we did something together as a family that we have never done together before. It may sound a little surprising, but our entire family spent a couple of hours working in the yard. We selected an area that needed attention, and then all of us concentrated our efforts to clean it up. It was a great experience.

This idea came to us, because Stacy and I have been talking a lot about how important it is to teach our children to work. Though we have talked a lot about it, we have done very little about it. Our summer experiences in Nephi made us more aware of the responsibility that we have to teach our children how to work.

Family Work

I grew up in a home where the work was shared among our family members. We worked everyday at something around the house and we worked hard. Though I am grateful for those experiences, I sometimes remember how difficult it was to do all that work. When I became a parent of my own children,I thought I would spare them, and myself, from the burden of the ordinary hands on labor of maintaing a beautiful home that never ends.

We made the decision years ago to contract out much of the work around our house. We thought it would be better to spend time with the kids, then it would be to spend time doing so many of the daily, weekly and monthly tasks that need to be done in order to keep a home well maintained. Consequently, we had a difficult time teaching our children how to work. There literally was nothing for them to do. I thought this would be good for my children, but they became pampered consumers instead of valuable producers.

Over the course of the past three years, we have eliminated all of our outside contractors and gradually transitioned the work to individual members of our family. Each individual is expected to get their jobs done. We often face a bit of resistance, and the outside and inside our our home do not look as good as they once did, but our children are learning to work.

Because we divvied up the jobs individually, we rarely if ever, worked together as a family. Working together is proving to be a wonderful social experience for our family. It is also an excellent opportunity to be united in positive results. When we focus on a section of our yard, we can immediately see the efforts of our hands. The yard looks better! We actually have fun when we work together.  

While we are working together, we talk, sing and tell stories to each other. We also complain, get frustrated and accuse each other of not working hard enough. For some reason, both of these expressions bring us closer together as a family. The moments of mindless effort focused on menial tasks are refreshing and actually serve as a release from all of the other carefully focused moments of life. Because so much of our work is menial, even our youngest children can be involved.

Becoming Productive

Work is the gateway to productivity. There is really no way of being productive, at least by any definition that I know of, it we do not learn how to work. 

It is good to rest, but I firmly believe that each of us must be anxiously engaged in good work if we want to be happy. No amount of rest will bring that to us. It is the work that we do with our own hands that satisfies us and pleases us. 

Sharing The Load

How do you divide the work in your home? Do you conform to the classic stereotypes of who does what? Or does each take a turn a dishes, laundry, bathroom cleaning, lawn mowing, hedge trimming and weeding? 

It is easy to hate doing this work because it is never done. Almost as soon a household task is completed, it is time to do it again. I am thankful for that, because each time it needs to be done again is a new opportunity for us to work and be together. Our family identity is  being established, moment by moment amongst the talking and teasing, singing and storytelling, and even the quarreling and the bickering. I can't imagine anything better.

Live Today, Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548

 

 

Go Go Go Joseph!

A couple of weeks ago, we began the rehearsals for Joseph and The Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat. It is so exciting to finally be engaged in the show. The cast is amazing. I feel so fortunate to be a part of it. Being Joseph is at least a 15 year dream of mine and I am excited to finally be playing the role.

Last week, I was in Argentina, which meant that I missed the second week of rehearsals. One of the cast members is my understudy and he filled in for me. I was bummed out about not being there and even felt insecure about it. 

It was only the second week of practice and somebody else was singing my role. I was worried that he would be better than me. I was worried that the cast would want him to play the role instead of me. I was worried that the bonds that form in a production would form without me and I would return as an outsider.

Any Dream Will Do

Yesterday I worked in Sacramento. My flight home ended up being delayed by an hour which meant that I was an hour late for our rehearsal. I was already anxious enough about my return to rehearsal, being late made it even worse. 

The thoughts of inadequacy and rejection flooded my mind. I am a positive person. I feel comfortable with who I am and I possess adequate levels of self-esteem, yet at times, I find it very easy to engage in negative self talk. This cracks me up - I can't believe it happens, but it does.

I could tell by the expressions on the faces of my fellow cast mates that they were happy to see me. Even my understudy smiled brightly and said, I am so glad you are here.It made me feel instantly comfortable and it was a good thing because I had barely sat down before my songs were up for rehearsal. 

Kind Words From A Friend

Eddie, one my fellow cast mates stayed a moment after practice to speak with me. He made me feel so loved and welcomed. He told me that I bring a different energy and spirit to the show and that it is not the same when I am not there. He was expressly complimentary of our cast, and he wanted me to know that I am supported.

His kind words were a great lift to me. I nearly floated home. I felt redeemed from my negative self-talk and I committed to give even more to our show.

A Call To Action

When was the last time you paused to lift another up? It is so easy to get caught up in our own self interest. Sometimes we do so at the expense of others. Do you see the people around you? Are you aware of the impact your words, whether they are kind of derogatory, have on them?

Today is a great day to catch somebody doing good. It may make you feel a little uncomfortable to say it, but just step out of that comfort zone and say something nice. It won't just make the other person feel better. You will feel better too. Give it a go!

Live Today! Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548

 

Becoming Seriously Active

I am working on a big project. I want to write a book. Sometimes it can be overwhelming. I know what needs to be done for success, but I sometimes wonder if I have what it takes. The magnitude of this project is bigger than it sounds. There are many steps to consider and it is difficult to even know where to begin.

The confusion I feel often keeps me from doing anything. I think about getting started, but then I allow myself to engage in more creative avoidance. I am sure that I could have written it at least ten times by now, yet I am still a long way from the finish line.

Organizing Powers

I look at this project as a big puzzle. I can see all the pieces, but I have not figured out the pattern yet. I need to keep turning the pieces over until I can begin to recognize how they all fit together.

There are at least two things that are preventing me from completing it; an outline and a deadline. It sounds a little weak as I write it, but those two steps are literally the major obstacles that stands in my way.

I know what I want to write about, but I have yet to sit down and organize the outline. Once I do, it will breathe new life into the project. An outline will allow me to break the confounding immensity into manageable action steps. In some ways, I am afraid to write the outline, because then I will be committed to completing it. The fear of being turned down by publishers and readers becomes even greater once I commit to an outline.

As long as I avoid this step, the act of writing my book will remain a dream. It will just be something that I am going to do someday. Staying in the dream phase also allows me to be unaccountable to the action I must take. The confusion I feel is a wonderful escape from getting it done.

The lack of a deadline is similarly liberating from the forces of accountability. Without a due date, there is no urgency. Many of my past writing experiences were motivated by academic or client demands. They always established the deadline.

Now I am the one that must set up the deadline. I continue to avoid it by telling myself that I am too busy to get started. I know that there will never be a time when I am not busy, but I continue to fool myself with the thought that someday, very soon, I will be free from the current demands. I realize that now is the time to get started, and that there will never be another moment like this.

Seeing Over The Hedge

The obstacles we face in life, often prevent us from becoming who we want to become. It is easy to become overwhelmed, frustrated and fatigued by the daily acts we each must do in order to survive. Becoming our best requires sacrifice and effort. There is no easy way around the hedges of comfort that keep us from reaching for our best.

The first step is always recognizing the forces that are damming our progress. Once we do, they seem tiny and irrelevant. As I look at my need for an outline and a deadline, I can't believe I didn't see it before. It just seems so obvious. Now I feel free to move forward. This recognition makes it seem possible. It is a fear reducing step toward my success.

What Is Stopping You? 

I am sure that you are working on some projects that are equally overwhelming to you. Do you know what is preventing your progress? What parts can you control? What help do you need from others to overcome them? 

Think for a minute about the key to the successful completion of your project. What is the key? Are you willing to engage in the action needed for your success? 

If you are like me, then you may be constantly putting off something you really want to do. I invite you to see things differently today and get started. I am going to finish my book by the end of 2009. Now I am accountable to you. I hope you will check in on me. It will help me stay focused. It will remind me to get busy when I get off track. 

If you would like me to check in on you, then feel free to share what you are working on and I will follow-up. There is no time like the present moment to begin your journey.

Live Today! Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548

Ready, Set, Go!

Wow! The past nine weeks were amazing. I ran from one place to the next and mixed all of my running with a lot of life. I feel refreshed this morning and anxious to take things to the next level.

Despite the busy nature of life, I somehow feel like there is a new beginning for me just waiting to happen. I am finishing up some major projects and getting ready to launch into some new ones. I feel like there are some amazing experiences that are just about to begin, and I do not even know about them yet. That makes life exciting and interesting. I am ready to go.

Staying Aligned

I sat down yesterday to review the goals I set for myself at the beginning of the year. I enjoy this exercise. It helps me either recommit to, or let go of the goals I set at the beginning of the year. 

There were a couple that I let go. That was difficult for me to do in the past, but now I understand that it is very easy to commit to things in the moment that don't make sense later on. There is no sense in continuing the pursuit of an objective that no longer meets our needs. 

There were a couple of more that I still want to do. I need to get started on them because time is passing by. Before I know it, it will be time to explore what I will become next year. 

The Aloha Spirit

Last August, Stacy and I went to Hawaii to celebrate our 20th anniversary. There is a very calm and peaceful feeling in Hawaii. Nobody there is in too big of a hurry. Life happens at a different pace. I love connecting to that spirit of Aloha.

While we were there, we took a surfing lesson. It was something that we had never done before. Prior to arriving in Hawaii, we discovered yoga. Our yoga experiences prepared us to surf. The moving and balance postures were very similar for what we needed on the surf board. As a result, it was a very enjoyable experience for us and we were surprised at how easy we picked it up.

One of my goals this year is to really learn how to surf. I have lived in California for most of my 43 years on the planet, but for some reason, I just haven't had the desire to do it before now. I am running out of summer, but I am going to make it happen. This Saturday, I am taking my boys to the beach and the adventure will begin.

Surfing is a great way to feel the rhythm of nature and to stay connected to who I really am. I am looking forward to the moments I will take during the rest of this year to pause and enjoy the beautiful world in which we live.

Connecting The Dots

How are you doing on your annual goals? When was the last time you visited them? Which ones do you need to let go? Which ones require your immediate attention? Don't just sit there thinking that life is too busy. It is too busy, but that is no excuse to give all you have to areas that will not bring you satisfaction. If you want something different, then you are going to have to move toward it. 

The way to happiness is to be anxiously engaged in those things that will help you become your best. We must not allow ourselves to be constantly doing - we must also allow ourselves moments to be.

Live Today! Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548

Way To Go Christina!

Just before Christina, our oldest child, learned to walk, Stacy and I moved in to the home of a family member, so that we could save money for a down payment on our own home. They had a dog that often failed to make it outside to do its business. As a result, the carpets were a soiled and stained.

Because we were afraid that she might get sick or crawl into a mess, we decided that it would not be a good idea to put her on the floor. We carried her with us, every where we went. When we moved out, she was 13 months old and she still had not learned how to walk.  

In our new home, we still carried her around with us because we loved her so much. Very quickly we began to realize that if we did not put her down on the ground, she would never learn to walk. We began putting her on the floor and within three or four days she was walking on her own.

Time To Grow Up

A couple of months ago, I told Christina, who is just about to turn 20, this story. I had never shared it with her before, and I could tell that she was fascinated by it. I shared with her how much we loved carrying her around and how difficult it was to put her down on the floor. Then, I told her how difficult it was for me to watch her fall as she learned to walk. There were many times when I just wanted to pick her up to save her from another one. 

I explained to her that I was quite certain that if we never put her down, she would have never learned to walk. I understood that the process of learning to walk would carry with it some pain, but in the long run it would be best for her if she could master that skill. Knowing this, helped me get through the experience.

Then I got real serious and I told her that it was time, once again, for her mother and I to let go. A year ago, she moved out of our home. Since that time, she has been enjoying a very exciting social life. She has a job, but normally only worked about 13 hours a week. This did not provide enough to cover her needs so Stacy and I made up the difference. 

Because we felt like she was capable of working more than 13 hours a week, we decided that we would no longer make up the difference after the first of August. This would give her a couple of months to find a full time job that could meet her needs.

The Joy Of Growing

At first, Christina thought it would be easy to find a full time job, so she continued to play. She told us that she had plenty of time to find a job. When she finally got serious about it, she quickly discovered that it would be more difficult than she anticipated. 

As August approached she began to be a bit nervous about her situation and even suggested that she might have to move home with us. I told her to be diligent and to not give up. She continued her search.

During the last week of July she finally found a full time job that could meet her needs. At the same time, she was offered another part time job. To the astonishment of all, she was blessed with three jobs. 

She worked 63 hours during the first week of August, and though she was tired, she discovered that working is fun and that she is good at it. We are very happy for her. We are all excited for August 20th to arrive because that is the day of her first paycheck from her full time job.

It Is Hard To Let Go

It was very hard for us to tell Christina that we would no longer be supporting her financially. I spent many moments wondering if we were doing the right thing. In the long run, we realized that it would be the best thing for her, so we let go of the fear that we had for her.

Sometimes we hold on to our children too long. We think we are doing them a favor when we do everything for them. We think that it is a sign of our love, but if we really love them, we will let them go. The lessons we are learning right now with Christina will help us raise our other children. 

We are determined to start even sooner with our younger ones. We want them to be self-reliant. We know that the only way to teach this is to allow them opportunities where they must rely on themselves. It is safe to do this in the home. We are committed to teaching our children the value of work. We are committed to working with them.

What is going on in your life? Do you have adult children that are still dependent on you? What did you learn about work in the home you grew up in? What are you teaching your children about work? What does it mean to you to let go? I don't think it is ever too soon or too late. Are you ready to do it?

Live Today! Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548

Do You See What I See?

I mentioned in a previous post that the road to my client's office here in Buenos Aires passes along side the Rio De La Plata. For months now, this road has been under construction. The construction crews are busy widening the road.

On one stretch of the road, it appears that there is no room to widen the road. On one side there is an airport and on the other, there is the river. The only choice was to build the new lanes in the river. Each day, the work crews deliver sand, gravel and fill dirt to the river banks, and then compact it down with heavy equipment. 

Not surprisingly, It is taking a lot of time to build these new lanes. Some of the materials wash away before the construction workers are able to compact it down. They have been at it now for over a year. 

I am sure that the every day passerby hardly notices that progress is being made, but as a monthly observer, I can easily see the changes being made. The differences that are occurring over time are very small and subtle, but they are very real.

Behavioral Progress Is Difficult To See

So it is with our own personal growth and development. It takes time to change our behavior and it is difficult for those closest to us to notice that we are growing. Our development happens in very small stages so many barely recognize that we are growing. 

They don't see it, because they see us as they have experienced us in the past, and they hold tightly to those memories. One of the most difficult things about growing is changing the perceptions that others have. 

How Do You See The World?

It use to upset me when people did not notice that I was growing. Then I realized that I suffered from the same problem. I was so focused on not being noticed, that I failed to notice the growth in others. I came to the conclusion that if I wanted my growth to be seen by others, then I would need to start seeing the growth that they were experiencing.

I still find it very difficult to do with those closest to me. For some reason, I want to hold on to the previous experiences and the belief that my close family and friends are still like they were in the past. It makes it harder for me to see who they are now, when they fail to see me for who I am. There is a much stronger emotional reaction when they fail to see me and it throws me off of my resolve to see them.

One strategy that works for me is to ask myself at every new encounter, "what is different about this person I love?" When I ask myself this question, I get in touch with the love I have for him or her and I look for the growth that is occurring with my friend or family member. The answers to this question never cease to amaze me.

Seeing Things As They Really Are

Questions like the one I just posed, help me to see what is current and real helping me bust away the previous perceptions that I formed, which may no longer be valid.

Like the new lanes being built along the Rio De La Plata, it takes a lot of time to build new images of those we love and admire. It is only difficult to see, when we keep seeing what we have always seen. The only way to see what is new is to look for it. Are you looking?

Live Today! Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

760-559-3548